Sunday, July 3, 2011


   I don't know about you guys but one of my biggest pet peeves is to hear a pregnant person with a perfectly healthy baby boy/girl on the way to gripe about what gender their new baby is.  So, here's a story for all of you that I'm sure will have you thinking the exact same thing that I was as I sat in the doctor's office with my sweet friend the other day.  
   I went with one of my friends to the baby doctor for her 25 check up last week.  While sitting in the doctor's office a young girl comes out from the back with ultrasound pictures in hand.  As she took her seat to wait for the second part of her appt. she began to cry.  We obviously all thought something was terribly wrong as she picked up the phone to make one of three phone calls as she sat, while all the expecting mother's listened to her conversation.  Although it wasn't our business, we couldn't help but hear that everyone she called, the first thing she said was, "you are not going to be happy just like everyone else because we are not having a boy, it's a girl".  I almost threw up in my chair.  How, at such a joyous time could you sit in a waiting room full of people and cry about your unborn babies gender.  As she called the third person I heard her say "Yes, it's healthy but it's not a boy". Then her boyfriend/baby's daddy sits down and she ask's him is he really ok with a girl and his response was, "It's not what I wanted but I guess we can't always get what we want".  At this point every beside me was furious to say the least.  Little did she know, that me, a mother expecting twins, gave birth to not one but two dead children less than a year ago.  My sweet friend that I mentioned who was beside me... Well she suffered two terrible miscarriages and now has special needs twins that are precious that she has since adopted.  On the other side of my friend, a young lady expecting her first daughter, and at 25 weeks along, she hadn't felt her move in three days.  She was there for an ultrasound to see if her daughter was still alive.  So, plenty of people were affected by this selfish girl's gripes of having a little girl.  I don't know about other people but I would give my right arm and leg for a healthy girl, or boy for that matter.  After losing my twins I can't imagine anything better than the thought of a little girl.  We could care less.  I wanted to say, until you've gone to pick out caskets for your child and had to pick out what they would be buried in, then I don't want to hear you gripe about having a girl.  Sure, we all have thoughts was what gender baby would fit best in our family and I'll tell you I have even said it would be so neat to have a girl since we had two boys etc. but I will NEVER cry even if I end of with five girls or five boys.  I'll get what I get, in case some are unaware, you really can't choose the sex of your baby....I'm just saying.

1 comment:

  1. Betsy,

    I have read this post several times, and I've tried to reword my response so I don't sound so bitter. It's not working, because I totally agree with you. How in the world do people close their eyes to such a blessing? Boy, girl, one of each, two of the same...what difference does it make?

    It makes me think of my baby--the one I gladly would've carried no matter the gender just to be given a child at the end.